Being a mother and a college student at the age of 32 has been difficult. I am currently finishing my second semester at my college. My daughter has a hybrid schedule, my son was recently diagnoised with autism and receiving early intervention.
Everyone asks, How do I do it? Here are three advice that I have experienced.
1. Use a planner
I love happy planners. It helps me schedule my time for school as well as working around my kids’ schedule for school, medical and of course family time.
2. Make sure you can do it.
I found myself at one point questioning if I can do it. Five classes, plus my kids’ classes. My best advice is make sure you have the time to do it. Don’t overwhelm yourself with things that you think you can handle. There is nothing wrong with taking a few steps back to move forward.
3. Have time for yourself.
You must think it’s impossible and that’s not true. We parents (single parents) need a time give for our minds to relax. Even if it’s a five minute break in between, the point of these breaks is to not feel burnt out. Listen to music, read a book, do something for you. Don’t forget about yourself in the process.
It is not easy
This isn’t the easiest that I’ve experienced. This is been a difficult journey. Do not give up. The reward at the end will make it worth it.
I have always wonder if there were writers out there like myself. Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder is a most common disorder that co-exists with learning disabilities. There are writers who do have Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder and who’ve written non-ADHD Books. Here is the list of authors who have ADHD.
“Write what you know: your own interests, feelings, beliefs, friends, family, and even pets will be your raw materials when you start writing. Develop a fondness for solitude if you can, because writing is one of the loneliest professions in the world!”
“The best way is always to stop when you are going good and when you know what will happen next. If you do that every day when you are writing a novel you will never be stuck. That is the most valuable thing I can tell you so try to remember it.”
“I find that by putting things in writing I can understand them and see them a little more objectively…For words are merely tools and if you use the right ones you can actually put even your life in order, if you don’t lie to yourself and use the wrong words.”
So today I wanted to share 7 mistakes new writers make. If you guys are thinking about or wanting to become a writer, then here are 7 tips that you will come across as you begin your writing Journey.
By all means I am not perfect, I am still learning as I go but these are 7 Tips that I have came across myself and I’d share with all of you.
INFO-DUMPING: When there is too much back story of your character in one chapter. This is not a good Idea for it will lose the interest of the reader if you put all info in one chapter rather than spreading it all over your novel and/or series. Keep the reader intrigued and don’t say all the goods in one chapter.
DESCRIBING EVERYTHING- books are not a play-by-play of real-life. It’s boring, it slows down the plot.
NOT ENOUGH CONFLICT- Newbies like myself make this mistake. There is not enough conflict in the story. Conflict is things that impede your character’s goals. Good Conflict doesn’t mean “we are going to die.” It can also be a disagreement of some sort. From conflict, we drive stakes to where things that your character stands to lose if the conflict gets in their way.
NOTHING BAD HAPPENS TO MAIN CHARACTER- This will put an artificial limit on how much conflict and/or bad events drive the story forward. Take the plunge, what’s the worse thing that can happen to your character?
MESSY DIALOGUE- A lot of newbies even myself do this. We write messy and/or cliche dialogue. Do you don’t have to every time identify the speaker at all times however do it frequently so the reader has a sense of who is talking. It can show who, what, and where the characters are in that scene. The go to tag should be said. It’s the invisible dialogue tag. Newbies write things like he exclaimed rather than said. You can use tags such as ‘He Whispered’ but sparingly. When using quotations, your punctuation should be inside the quotation mark. When I started it out, I always had it outside of the quotation mark.
TOO MANY POINT OF VIEWS- Now, don’t get me wrong, there are stories out there that have an extra Point of Views but most of these multiple point of views can distract the readers from the main story.
WHITE ROOM SYNDROME- Variant on ‘show don’t tell’; AKA when characters are in a scene but no description or detail has been provided. Story ends up feeling generic.
There it is 7 common mistakes. I hope you guys use these tools to better your writing.