How I juggle my life as a mother and college student

Hello Everyone

Being a mother and a college student at the age of 32 has been difficult. I am currently finishing my second semester at my college. My daughter has a hybrid schedule, my son was recently diagnoised with autism and receiving early intervention.

Everyone asks, How do I do it? Here are three advice that I have experienced.

1. Use a planner

I love happy planners. It helps me schedule my time for school as well as working around my kids’ schedule for school, medical and of course family time.

2. Make sure you can do it.

I found myself at one point questioning if I can do it. Five classes, plus my kids’ classes. My best advice is make sure you have the time to do it. Don’t overwhelm yourself with things that you think you can handle. There is nothing wrong with taking a few steps back to move forward.

3. Have time for yourself.

You must think it’s impossible and that’s not true. We parents (single parents) need a time give for our minds to relax. Even if it’s a five minute break in between, the point of these breaks is to not feel burnt out. Listen to music, read a book, do something for you. Don’t forget about yourself in the process.

It is not easy

This isn’t the easiest that I’ve experienced. This is been a difficult journey. Do not give up. The reward at the end will make it worth it.

Always be kind,

Nancy

Writers who have ADHD

I have always wonder if there were writers out there like myself. Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder is a most common disorder that co-exists with learning disabilities. There are writers who do have Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder and who’ve written non-ADHD Books. Here is the list of authors who have ADHD.

Alec Mustafayev

An Wallace 

Annie Laurie Cechini

Bryan L. Hutchinson

Caleb J Sessions

Candice Reed

Carmine Gallo 

Clarence Page, Winner of 2 Pulitzer Prizes

Cory Doctorow

Dan Largent

Dan also has an ADHD website, ADHD Dan

Dav Pilkey

Douglas A. Puryear

Dr. Edward Hallowell

Dr. Gabor Mate

Dr. John Ratey

Frank South

Greg Lemond

Howie Mandel 

James Carville

Jamie Oliver

Jen Malone

Katherine Ellison Pulitzer Prize Winner

Laurie Penney

Michael Phelps 

Miriam Dunn

Paul Orfelea

Richard Orange

Rick Riordan

Robert Scoble

Robin Black

Sheri Meshal

Seth Godin

Tami D. Cowden

Terry Bradshaw

Thom Hartmann

Ty Pennington

Victoria M. Sanchez

Zoe Kessler

By this post I hope you can check out the work of these writers. I hope this post can encourage others who do want to become a writer but thinks having this can stop them.

11 writing advice from 11 great writers

1. Learn to Love Being Alone

Write what you know: your own interests, feelings, beliefs, friends, family, and even pets will be your raw materials when you start writing. Develop a fondness for solitude if you can, because writing is one of the loneliest professions in the world!”

– J.K. Rowling

2. Don’t Write for Everyone

Write to please just one person. If you open a window and make love to the world, so to speak, your story will get pneumonia.”

– Kurt Vonnegut

3. Make It Funny

“If you can tell a serious story funny, you’re winning.”

– Aaron Sorkin

4. Always Be Writing

“Write regularly, whether you feel like writing or not, and whether you think what you’re writing is any good or not.”

– Anne Lamott

5. Avoid Chasing a Theme

“If I’ve ever had a theme in mind, I mean, usually that’s just the worst. Then you feel yourself writing. And there’s nothing worse than that feeling of, kind of, chasing after a theme.”

– Paul Thomas Anderson

6. Observe Constantly

“Read, observe, listen intensely, as if your life depended upon it.”

– Joyce Carol Oates

7. Stop Writing Before You Get Stuck

“The best way is always to stop when you are going good and when you know what will happen next. If you do that every day when you are writing a novel you will never be stuck. That is the most valuable thing I can tell you so try to remember it.”

– Ernest Hemingway

8. Make Your First Sentence a Good One

What’s so hard about that first sentence is that you’re stuck with it. Everything else is going to flow out of that sentence. And by the time you’ve laid down the first two sentences, your options are all gone.”

– Joan Didion

9. Tell the Truth

A writer should have this little voice inside of you saying, ‘Tell the truth. Reveal a few secrets here.'”

– Quentin Tarantino

10. Use the Right Words

“I find that by putting things in writing I can understand them and see them a little more objectively…For words are merely tools and if you use the right ones you can actually put even your life in order, if you don’t lie to yourself and use the wrong words.”

– Hunter S. Thompson

11. It Shouldn’t Sound Like Writing

“If it sounds like writing, rewrite it.”

– Elmore Leonard

If you have a great writing advice or your favorite writer has a writing advice you live by comment below!

7 Mistakes new writers make

So today I wanted to share 7 mistakes new writers make. If you guys are thinking about or wanting to become a writer, then here are 7 tips that you will come across as you begin your writing Journey.

By all means I am not perfect, I am still learning as I go but these are 7 Tips that I have came across myself and I’d share with all of you.

  1. INFO-DUMPING: When there is too much back story of your character in one chapter. This is not a good Idea for it will lose the interest of the reader if you put all info in one chapter rather than spreading it all over your novel and/or series. Keep the reader intrigued and don’t say all the goods in one chapter.
  2. DESCRIBING EVERYTHING- books are not a play-by-play of real-life. It’s boring, it slows down the plot.
  3. NOT ENOUGH CONFLICT- Newbies like myself make this mistake. There is not enough conflict in the story. Conflict is things that impede your character’s goals. Good Conflict doesn’t mean “we are going to die.” It can also be a disagreement of some sort. From conflict, we drive stakes to where things that your character stands to lose if the conflict gets in their way.
  4. NOTHING BAD HAPPENS TO MAIN CHARACTER- This will put an artificial limit on how much conflict and/or bad events drive the story forward.  Take the plunge, what’s the worse thing that can happen to your character?
  5. MESSY DIALOGUE- A lot of newbies even myself do this. We write messy and/or cliche dialogue. Do you don’t have to every time identify the speaker at all times however do it frequently so the reader has a sense of who is talking. It can show who, what, and where the characters are in that scene.  The go to tag should be said. It’s the invisible dialogue tag. Newbies write things like he exclaimed rather than said. You can use tags such as ‘He Whispered’ but sparingly. When using quotations, your punctuation should be inside the quotation mark. When I started it out, I always had it outside of the quotation mark.
  6. TOO MANY POINT OF VIEWS-  Now, don’t get me wrong, there are stories out there that have an extra Point of Views but most of these multiple point of views can distract the readers from the main story.
  7. WHITE ROOM SYNDROME- Variant on ‘show don’t tell’; AKA when characters are in a scene but no description or detail has been provided. Story ends up feeling generic.

There it is 7 common mistakes. I hope you guys use these tools to better your writing.

XOXO

NLN ❤